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Is Romance All About the Drama?


So much of romance is about drama. The cute-meets. The misunderstandings. The passionate arguments and sexy makeups. Chemistry.

Sometimes reading a romance is like reading a long series of arguments concluding with storm-offs until the couple finally gets it right.

It makes sense. A story without tension, without action, isn’t a story worth reading. Though you might find the occasional car chase and bank heist, the focus of a romance is bringing two people together and finding the drama in their personality clashes.

However sometimes, not always but sometimes, I am tired. I don’t really want the heroine to argue until they both long for a passionate kiss. Sometimes, I just want her to lean against the hero with her eyes closed.

When I’m really tired, and trying to figure out a story moment, I’ll find my heroine isn’t very energetic. She just wants to curl up in front of a fire. Sometimes she wants to be sick in bed, and have other people commiserate and bring her flowers and books.

And when I’m especially tired, the poor heroine ends up abandoned somewhere, like the bottom of the ocean or buried under ground… and that’s about the time I realize I’m WAY too tired to think about writing romances and I go take a nap.

Although I love a well-earned rest, where the hero and heroine are content in each others company and all is quiet in their fictional world, the truth is that readers and writers have to earn those moments. There has to be drama before, and the promise of drama after, for us to enjoy taking a deep breath and seeing how the characters relate to each other calmly and empathetically. It’s a glimpse that shows us that, yes, they belong together.

That glimpse will always be interrupted or go awry. The drama will return, worse than ever, but we long for them to come back together and regain that idyllic relationship perfection. It will be a struggle, and there’s always one more battle.

Unless it’s the end of the book. Then the battle is finally over, drama quiets, and the characters are left alone on the page to finally find peace. So perhaps achieving peace is the most romantic thing of all, not drama.

Future post: Watch for my upcoming blog about  Tempo of Temptation, where a very tired and sick girl, unloved and unloveable, turns cliché on its ear by declaring her love and asking the hero to wait for her.



About Lela Bay

Lela Bay is the author of Ruined Reputations. She lives in a modest house in a modest town with her husband, children, and pets. Despite living so far north, she requires a certain amount of sunshine each day or she gets grumpy. Her hands are always cold, but her heart is warm. When she isn’t writing, she enjoys strolling, gardening, reading, and tea time with friends. Music has always been a large part of her life, and she owns a ridiculous number of instruments. Lela’s favorite romance authors include Laura Kinsale, Jennifer Cruise, and Jane Austen. She enjoys stories with intimacy and humor. Favorite movies include Overboard, All of Me, North & South, Pride and Prejudice (miniseries with Colin Firth, please), The Princess Bride, and While You Were Sleeping. On television she is a fan of Grey’s Anatomy, Downton Abbey, and Miss Fisher’s Murder Mysteries. She frequently contributes movie and entertainment reviews to Meant to Be Press. Follow Lela on twitter @bay_lela

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