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Did You Happy Your Valentine’s Day?

heart-1407248_1280February is the month of love. Valentine’s Day strikes mixed feelings of love, longing, fear, and sometimes loneliness into the hearts of many. Being mindful of romantic relationships awakens contentment in some and angst in others. Few people feel nothing.

Those in healthy romantic relationships are reminded to appreciate their loved one. Even better, it’s a time to show that appreciation. Some couples engage in traditional flowers, cards, or candy. Others go more off the beaten path, with trips, hot air balloon rides, and matching tattoos. Despite what television and movies might show, people need to find the expression that is right for their relationship. To the right person, an inexpensive hot bath with lit candles is more thoughtful and appreciated than a box of exquisite chocolates.

Others, in less healthy relationships, might use Valentine’s Day as a chance to connect. To feel out the state of the relationship and the feelings on the other half of the equation. Does he love me the way I love him? Do we see a future together? Such questions are necessary in order to progress, and Valentine’s Day provides a bit of a measuring stick. Too often, though, that creates pressure for the day to measure up in ways that the other half of the couple might not realize. If Valentine’s Day is important to you, express yourself, and be clear about expectations. Otherwise, they’re likely not to  be met.

Finally, there are those who are not in romantic relationships. Perhaps they were, and Valentine’s Day can be for reflecting on lost loved ones or how to create that closeness once more. For those who have never known romantic love, it’s an opportunity to imagine what might satisfy the longing in their souls. And if there isn’t longing, perhaps to celebrate being content. Let’s face it, we all need different degrees of love and romance at different points in our lives.

No matter what, our happiness resides within us. We make it happen. The first step is identifying what makes you happy. Once you know that, you can focus on what comes next: helping someone else be happy.

Happy February. Remember romance all year round.


About Lela Bay

Lela Bay is the author of Ruined Reputations. She lives in a modest house in a modest town with her husband, children, and pets. Despite living so far north, she requires a certain amount of sunshine each day or she gets grumpy. Her hands are always cold, but her heart is warm. When she isn’t writing, she enjoys strolling, gardening, reading, and tea time with friends. Music has always been a large part of her life, and she owns a ridiculous number of instruments. Lela’s favorite romance authors include Laura Kinsale, Jennifer Cruise, and Jane Austen. She enjoys stories with intimacy and humor. Favorite movies include Overboard, All of Me, North & South, Pride and Prejudice (miniseries with Colin Firth, please), The Princess Bride, and While You Were Sleeping. On television she is a fan of Grey’s Anatomy, Downton Abbey, and Miss Fisher’s Murder Mysteries. She frequently contributes movie and entertainment reviews to Meant to Be Press. Follow Lela on twitter @bay_lela


This entry was posted on February 23, 2017 by in Lifestyle.
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