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Taking Time for Oneself


Life can be a chaotic mess, filled with obligation, stress, and looming disaster. That’s why it’s sometimes necessary to step back, pour a nice cup of tea (or your beverage of choice), eat a snack, and read a distracting book.

Or if you don’t have time for that falderal, there’s still the distracting book. Whether you carry it in a bag, for those moments in the waiting room, or in the car glove box, anticipating the moment you’re trapped in the car until sheets of rain let up, the book is undemanding. It’s patient. A book waits at your convenience.

I’ve many friends who bluntly state they want to be entertained, and don’t want it to be too heavy. A flip through opening movies gets a big sigh then a relieved mutter when they find a light comedy or quirky romance. Not everything has to be as deep and dark as the garage that needs organizing and the creaky attic where you’ve heard suspicious squeaks but really don’t want to investigate. Sometimes you want to sit down and have someone entertain you without demand.

It’s healthy to take a step back. To find their zen some people meditate. Other people do the dishes. A good book has the ability to distract, and also to provide fodder for daydreams and new thoughts. Its power is cumulative. The best of books stays with you for days. The hero shows up when you’re falling asleep at night. Maybe he gives good advice; maybe he gives more than that.

It isn’t to say that you should distract yourself from your whole life. It’s just to say, there should also be pleasure, among the chaos, obligations, and stress. Sometimes we have to reach for that ourselves. And sometimes it’s only as far away as your tote bag.

So bring on the rain.


About Lela Bay

Lela Bay is the author of Ruined Reputations. She lives in a modest house in a modest town with her husband, children, and pets. Despite living so far north, she requires a certain amount of sunshine each day or she gets grumpy. Her hands are always cold, but her heart is warm. When she isn’t writing, she enjoys strolling, gardening, reading, and tea time with friends. Music has always been a large part of her life, and she owns a ridiculous number of instruments. Lela’s favorite romance authors include Laura Kinsale, Jennifer Cruise, and Jane Austen. She enjoys stories with intimacy and humor. Favorite movies include Overboard, All of Me, North & South, Pride and Prejudice (miniseries with Colin Firth, please), The Princess Bride, and While You Were Sleeping. On television she is a fan of Grey’s Anatomy, Downton Abbey, and Miss Fisher’s Murder Mysteries. She frequently contributes movie and entertainment reviews to Meant to Be Press. Follow Lela on twitter @bay_lela


This entry was posted on October 15, 2016 by in Entertainment, Uncategorized.
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